Infidelity is a concept perhaps as old as Adam and Eve. While recovering from it is possible, it is not easy and demands a lot of hard work. There is so much anger, hatred, and distrust involved that you simply can’t just move on after the initial shock and outburst. Experts believe that it takes almost two years to heal from the effects of going through an affair.
In recent years it is seen that more often than not, couples choose to stay together after cheating. The key reasons are that many now choose to seek help from professionals like relationship experts and prefer going to therapy than breaking up.
And last but not least, the higher social equality between both genders have made it easier for them to work out the differences.
Fundamentals of Recovery
No more cheating
The primary and essential element is that the one who cheated should stop seeing the person he cheated with to save the relationship because otherwise, it keeps on destroying the trust that needs to be rebuilt.
Relationship therapists suggest that partners who are cheated on should be given the freedom to ask as much or as little as they want to know about the affair. This practice gives them control over the situation and helps them towards forgiveness.
It is essential for the person who cheated to be completely honest with his spouse in order to rebuild the lost trust.
He should be willing to show and share his past interaction with the one he cheated on with, like his phone chats and social media communication.
It is better for the cheater to give his partner access to his passwords of the phone and social media accounts so that the spouse knows that she can trust him again when he is so upfront about his online activities.
Resolving other issues
The couple should also work on underlying issues in their relationship like communication gap, lack of intimacy, lack of quality time together, and the like. And both partners should take responsibility for their actions rather than playing the blame game.
Make a new start together
Experts believe that it is possible for partners to come even closer and stronger after going through the process of healing together than they were at the beginning of their relationship, provided they put in enough effort, sincerity, and trust.